Created for mothers of girls ages 9-14, BigTalks for Girls gives you the tools to navigate sensitive conversations with your daughter about her adolescent development within a Torah framework, while giving her a healthy, positive perspective of herself and her changing body.
“I don’t know where to start—or how”
If you’ve ever had any of these concerns, you’re not alone.
How do we know? Because these are real quotes from real mothers. Mothers trying to raise healthy girls and instill them with Torah values. Mothers like you.
Talking to your daughter about the physical and emotional changes she’s experiencing can be intimidating, especially if these conversations were not modeled for you when you were her age.
You may wonder:
What’s the best way to broach these ideas for the first time?
How do I know what information she’s ready for?
How do I discuss these delicate topics in a way that enhances my daughter’s self-esteem, preserves her innocence, keeps her safe, and is aligned with Torah hashkafos?
You asked. We listened.
After the success of our BigTalks Toolkit for Boys, which has been translated into 4 languages and sold over 2,500 copies in just one year, we received an outpouring of requests for a similar resource for mothers of pre-teen and teen girls.
Developed in close consultation with mechanchos, therapists, and specialists, BigTalks for Girls was carefully designed to empower mothers with the confidence to have crucial conversations with their daughters while planting seeds of trust and openness.
Because it’s not just one “talk.” It’s the beginning of a bond that will lay the foundation for candid, ongoing communication throughout her teenage years and beyond.
What are the goals of BigTalks for Girls?
What will my daughter learn?
A concept of inherent self-worth based on her connection with Hashem and her infinite value as a tzelem Elokim
How to respect and appreciate her body as a partner to her neshama, while also valuing her neshama as paramount.
What to expect in the coming years as her body develops, and how to take care of her health and body during these changes.
How to maintain the privacy of her body while avoiding ill-intending individuals and unsafe situations
What will I (as the parent) learn?
How to know the right time to speak to your daughter, and how to broach these subjects in ways that she’ll be receptive to.
How to present sensitive topics in a positive, comforting way via both verbal communication and body language.
How to clearly and accurately respond to your daughter’s questions about adolescence and puberty
Professional guidance, referrals, and information rooted in both Torah and mental health resources
You may not have all the answers.
But you can help her feel safe to ask the questions.
Praise for BigTalks for Girls
As parents, we place a high value on keeping our children healthy – physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Many parents understand the importance of explaining the changes that a girl experiences as she matures but hesitate to initiate the conversation. This toolkit is an invaluable resource as it provides Torahdig, hashkafic direction on how best to relay this sensitive information in a way that encourages healthy self-respect and pride in being a Bas Yisroel.
Rebbetzin Bryna Bender
I got the toolkit and it’s very impressive, very nuanced, and carefully done. It looks like a fantastic toolkit that will help so many mothers and daughters.
Shana Friedman, Mishpacha Publication
The Big Talks Girls Toolkit is extremely impressive. I am awed by the sensitivity and appropriateness of the compilation. It encompasses all the important conversation mothers should have with their daughters. The Big Talks guide is fantastic! The need for such a toolkit is long overdue! Thank you, Rabbi Tenenbaum and his entire team, for once again being at the forefront of chinuch in today’s generation. I have no doubt that this project will help thousands of girls as they develop into true bnos yisroel!
Mrs. Faigy Zelcer
I could not be more thrilled to see the curricula of Big Talks for girls. The sensitivity and wisdom with which it was written makes it such a great fit for mothers or educators to use with girls.
Sarah Rivka Kohn
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As someone whose parents were not open about these topics when I was a girl, I am so grateful that this resource (finally!) exists. This fills me with hope for the next generation of parents and girls.
Before, I was worried about how to balance sharing too much vs. too little with my daughter, and being clear enough so that she understands, but without exposing her to anything too early. BigTalks for Girls has given me the confidence I needed to have these important talks with her.
I am an educator, so I know firsthand the damage that can be done because of miseducation on puberty and related topics. This is a very important resource for parents and schools to learn how to teach these topics in a positive, reassuring way.
There is so much material available on these subjects for the general population, but nothing like this exists for our community. This is a sensitively written, easy to read, comprehensive guide that infuses the Torah perspective. This has absolutely been lacking in the market.
BigTalks for Girls has helped me tremendously. I now know that I am not only giving her evidence-based guidance, but I’m also giving over the hashkafa properly at the same time. This is an invaluable resource for mothers.
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